I really rarely listen to the radio these days. I mean, I hear the songs that catch my ear – Keri Hilson and some Lil Wayne. Yeah, I do. I listen and laugh or sometimes straight change the channel if the music become misogynistic etc. Then I began to catch a trend. A whole bunch of men are beginning to sing and praise independent women. Now, seeing that I do OK. I have my own auto, home, job etc., I just smiled as I listened to the songs prattle on about how this woman can do for herself. It initially sounded like praise and honor. Then, the more I listened to the words I caught a theme:
She only wants a man around for sex. She will pay the bill for dates and don’t want him to. She’d rather work 3 or 4 jobs rather than count on a man. She buys her own bottle from the bar. She puts in the work and the time for her life. Men will be “treated” by women who are independent.
Arooo?
Really men? This is what is hot? In other words YOU want to be treated like a … woman? Wow. Is this really what is going on?
I listen to the songs and realize that I have to cut the guys a break. If it is that difficult for them to understand that they have to bring something else to the table other than chex, a job, a home, and a check that says something pretty sad about them. Yeah, some independent women do want a boy toy, but most women that I hang with want a hubby. They want someone to share their dreams and their hopes with, they want a companion, someone to share their lives and family with.
Honestly, chex is not HARD to get for men or women. So men’s fascination with that – and money, really needs to stop.
Someone really needs to re-write and re-think some of these songs and themes they are coming up with in music. For real.
