Now, let me start by saying that I do not know all of the facts – which is why I did not respond to the numerous reports and blog stories about this situation. However, I do know what I know, if you know what I mean. 
Rhianna and Chris are young. Chris is definitely a young man and Rhianna is a young woman. Rhianna MAY have hit Chris, threw something at him etc. Chris overreacted in his response and did not take any of the options that he could have – like pulling over the car, putting the car in park, taking the keys and his ID and walking away. He could have pulled the car over and restrained her. He could have pulled the car over and told her to get out. Maybe, just maybe he did try these things, I do not know. However, I know that the marks on her face and the reported biting of her says he overreacted.
Look. There are some folks saying because gray occurs black and white should be denied. NOPE. That is not the way it works. You must first look to make sure that the color is REALLY gray. Got that? Usually men are hitting women because they have a need to control. Men kill women to control. Men abuse women to control. Men are USUALLY the abusers. Yes, some women DO crazy things to men and men must DEFEND themselves with much force sometimes even killing the woman. Looking at the brusing on Rhianna, Chris went past defending to punishing. He went beyond trying to control the situation to punishing. If they showed just pictures of slight bruising on her arms/wrist I would cut him slack by saying he tried to restrain her – he tried to control her so that she would stop. Women are not children we are your partners. Get that. If she is acting a fool, put her out the car, YOU get out the car. Restrain her. Restraint was not his point. Again the bruises say heck no, he was doing so to punish and to control. That, ladies and more importantly GENTLEMEN is called abuse. It is abuse.
Laws are skewed to protect women, because in causing physical harm and damage, fellas you got the muscles for that. The courts know this too. You were blessed with that kind of strength. Heck, I have read and am knowledgeable about 15-18 year olds breaking in houses of women and raping them, beating them etc. They are able to do so due to the fact that they are stronger. Deal with it. Most abusers are MEN. Most rapists are MEN. Most serial killers are MEN. Deal with it gentlemen. Don’t get defensive about what is the truth. Take responsibility for it. You are responsible, because it is clear that women are not physically equipped to make men stop unless she takes courses specifically for this reason or she is insane herself. Men must take men who abuse to task about this kind of behavior and teach them how to handle their anger without becoming abusive with the women in their lives. Deal with it.
I have read where folks said things like – what did she do, she should have known better blah, blah, blah. I often wonder, how come Chris did not know better, why wasn’t he expected to know better? It always seems to me that we want to give men the leadership role until they are put in a tight situation. When that occurs then the excuses start and what the woman should know or be responsible for begins. It is an interesting phenomenon to watch. Of course men make mistakes etc., but sometimes it feels like a fail safe plan just in case they are being just plain stupid. However, I digress. These are the same folks who would get mucho upset if they saw a mother or father physically abusing their child. Now, if you do not understand that in the same way that the kid does not have a shot because they are not physically stronger than the mother – and women TYPICALY are not USUALLY stronger than men, then you really need to check your rational about the fact that even though Rhi is probably a lot weaker than Chris it was ok for him to manhandle her. Beating on a woman so that she will be submissive etc. to your whims etc. , much like beating on a child is simply wrong. It is wrong.
Again, just because there are different shades of the color gray between black and white, does not mean at ALL that black and white does not exist. Please stop trying to pretend like it does.
