Good Guys

You know, more and more I am reading blogs that deal with the negative aspect of men.  Honestly, I have done so to because, well fellas, sometimes ya’ll be on that BS.  For real.  But that is not what this post is about. 

THIS here post is about the good guys.  Yeah, the good guys.  Sometimes they come across as thugs, of just suits, or round abouts  but when you talk to them, spend some time with them, laugh with them even sometimes hurt and cry with them you find out that they are good guys.  If they have them, they take care of their kids.  If they got a baby mama they really do try to get along with her.  These are the guys who go to work, go see about mama and ‘em and check on their friends to see if they are ‘aight too.   These are the guys who have figured out that just saying hello to a lady is enough.  They don’t need to be crass or crowd her out.  These are the guys who enjoy a good discussion and loves a great laugh, and generally it is not at another’s expense the situation, the conversation etc. is just plain funny.  These are the guys that others depend on cause he is dependable.  He cares and loves folks and he don’t just turn that off – he really gives a damn about you.  This is the guy who knows that a lady is single so he checks out her home when the noise is strange or he notices something ain’t right.  This is the guy who may not cook but he will bring something with him or take you out.  He knows and understands the value and the power in the words thank you and I appreciate it.  He is natural mensch.  If it makes his life better then he does it, not question.  If it helps him to grow then he does it, no doubt.  His first reaction is to think and look at a situation before he makes a move.  Violence is his last resort, but if he decides it is what he MUST do it will get done.  He works, he hustles. He makes sure to spend time with those he cares about, it ain’t just lip service to him.  He has learned when to rest, when to laugh, when to work and when to be.  Sex is very important to to him but he controls that urge it does not control him.  He learns from his mistakes.  He places situations in priority order cause first things are FIRST.  He mans up and speaks to other men about their stuff bringing their real issues to their attention.  He gets knowledge and prays for wisdom.  This list is some of the best attributes of a good guy.  It ain’t being a pimp.  It ain’t being awoman beater.  It ain’t intimidating folks for no reason.  It ain’t standing on the corner.  It ain’t acquiring money but not having any soul.  It ain’t random sex acts with any woman that says yes.  It ain’t hanging on to being 21 when you are 42.  It – being a man – is about making solid steps to make your life where you want it to be with a vision in mind.   That may be old fashioned to some but it is what the definition is to me.

THIS is for the good guys.  Thank you.  THIS is for the guys who know how to be men knowing that the first thing that they must do is KNOW themselves and the next is control themselves.  A man or woman for that matter who does not know and cannot master themselves is a fool indeed.   This is for the men who have decided that they will be the one in the drivers seat. This is for the one who got a goal a dream, integrity, heart and drive  who is not often appreciated.  This is for you guys … thank you for being the great guys.  Thanks for being the good guys.